Hello Readers:
I've been married since October of last year. We had a great wedding but the honeymoon could have been better! Well, we went to Cancun, Mexico and stayed at a beautiful resort. We enjoyed ourselves but my husband enjoyed himself a little more than I did, he got wasted drunk one of the nights adn it wasn't pretty at all. You would expect to have the BEST time of your life in your honeymoon, the BEST love making, the BEST everything but unfortunately it didn't turn out that way for us.
Now we've been married for 8 months and we haven't made love since the third night of our honeymoon week. We've had our arguments here and there, some BIGGER than others and 95% of the time it's about how much time he spends with his friends rather than stay home and have a nice romantic night with me that will lead to making sweet love!
We've talked about the situation countless times before, I've told him time and time again how I feel about our relationship and the conversation seems like it has a good result. He promises that he will "work" on it and that our love life will definitely improve. I have lost count of the amount of times he has made this promise, I still have yet to see the day where he chooses me over catching a game with his friends. I have even gone as far as to asking him if he's gay, cheating on me, is it that he's not attracted to me anymore? but of course his answer to all of these is "no". His excuse is that he's just too tired to do anything because he's been on his feet all day and everything hurts. My husband is a chef, and I get it, he has a very exhausting job. However, if his friends call him to go hang out, all of a sudden he forgets about how tired he is and makes the 30 minute drive to go hang out with them! Then of course this creates another argument!!!
So, why is it that my husband prefers to hang out with the boys rather than make love to his wife??? Why is it that I feel like the guy in the relationship? I'm constantly asking for sex from him but I just keep getting rejected!!! I really don't understand, I'm a healthy 26 year old woman, and he's a healthy 33 year old man. My husband says I'm selfish, that all I think about is having him all to myself, all I want is sex and spend time with him, that I never let him go out with his friends when in reality all he does is go out with his friends no matter if I like it or not, he always does what he feels like doing!!! I don't feel like a newlywed couple should feel. What should I do?
